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STRESS AND THE WORKING WOMAN: DUAL ROLES, DUAL STRESSES

Working women with dual roles are stressed in ways not usually shared by working men, or by nonworking women.

For one thing, although grandmothers and great-grandmothers may have worked, many mothers in the '50s did not. Therefore there are few role models for today's working mothers. If they were employed, women were expected to hold jobs, not develop careers! Career development takes long-range planning and commitment. It can mean sacrificing immediate benefits, such as a high-paying but dead-end job, for long-term gain. It can mean playing the politics of the office. It means competing with others—and the others are generally men.

Furthermore, in past generations women were expected to be seen and not heard at the office. Their traditional jobs are secretaries, receptionists, typists, and clerks placed them in helpful, supportive, servicing roles. It is no surprise, then, that as women have entered competitive, career-track jobs, they have met with resistance and resentment in the work place.

Although being a full-time homemaker has its own stresses, in some ways it is the easier side of the coin. Compare the role of wife or parent to that of a working woman. As a wife or parent

No exams, prerequisites, or previous experience are necessary.

There is no need to submit a resume for the job. Failures are usually not observed, analyzed, and judged in public. They can be hidden in the privacy of the home.

There is no competition on the job. The laundry is all yours!

There is no competition for the job. Your children are all yours!

There is no time clock. Your schedule is yours to structure—no doubt it's filled beyond the waking hours, but it is still all yours. • You are your own supervisor and boss. This is not to say that you are not your severest critic and slave-driver. On the contrary, at home you probably assume more responsibility than if you did have a boss. It is a different kind of stress tradeoff, however, than that involved in working under a boss.

Working women who are wives and/or mothers often live with a sharp conflict between their roles inside and outside the home. Many mothers who work part time report that they cannot feel satisfied in either role. When they are working, they can think only of the child at home. When they are home, they feel they should be on the job.

Women who work full time, on the other hand, may feel guilty that they were away from home all day. When they come home, they begin to compensate rather than relax. They put in extra effort and activity at home as if they had been playing all day.

Of course, arriving home after a hard day at the office, women can feel resentful of children's and husbands' demands—and then feel distressed by their own resentment! Too often this leads to an ongoing marital debate about whose job or income is more important to the family's survival. Since the husband's income is usually designated for the utilities and other running costs, and the wife's income more often provides the "extras," husbands seem to have the upper hand. If the discrepancy in income is sizable, the debate may have some minor merit. If there is little discrepancy in income, however, the two paychecks might just as well be considered part of a pool of financial resources. The "extras" that a wife's income provides, moreover, usually turn out to be such nonfrivolous items as the family car, the family trip, and even the family's food. Jenny's case is not uncommon.

Jenny's husband took paternalistic pride in her early successes as a dress designer. He helped her make contacts and develop bookkeeping skills. As her business grew, he was less needed and she was less available. She had her own stories to tell and her own business trips to take. He demanded that she choose between her business and him. She offered him the same choice to point out the absurdity of his request. He, of course, said he could never give up his business and that his involvement in it did not mean that he did not love her. She said the same was true for her. "It's different for a woman," he replied. "I'm sorry to hear that you feel that way," she said. She also said goodbye.

Not all women would, could, or should say goodbye in a situation like Jenny's. Not all women would find themselves in such a situation. Too many, however, do. Too many must then struggle with realistic alternatives. My most heartfelt professional advice to such women is this: If you are thinking of leaving your marriage because you would prefer to live alone than to live with the stress of the relationship, a separation may work for you. If, however, you are leaving your marriage for a fantasy of another, more perfect husband—reconsider. People are package deals, and we cannot order the options to suit us at will. Job and marriage coordination creates problems for all of us; don't jump to blame the stress on your spouse.

Even in an ideal relationship, coordinating job and marriage can be difficult.

Ruth trains employees for a cosmetics firm and loves her job. Jim is chagrined, however, that his wife is not being paid what she is worth. "She should quit and go where she is appreciated," he insists. "They think she will work for next to nothing because they know that her work is not a financial necessity." "Please don't pressure me, Jim," Ruth repeats constantly. "More money will mean I'll have to take my work more seriously. I'm pretending it's a wonderful game right now. I don't feel guilty if I leave early to go shopping with my kids. More money will mean more anxiety. You earn enough for both of us." "That's not the point," Jim replies.

And Jim is right. Ruth's pay should reflect her worth, not her needs. Her ambivalence stems from her job-marriage conflicts, not her economic philosophy. What does her low pay indicate about her boss's view of female employees? Would it be different if Ruth were, indeed, "in need"? Probably not!

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